Second March 2016 - Laugh, Live and Let Live

Another great day is ending with lot of happiness and learning. It was a great sunny day, but a bit chilly too. Today my little one year old taught me how to forget all worries and tensions and laugh out loud. After breakfast he was playing with his toys, and then he suddenly looked at me, opened his mouth wide and laughed at me. It was so cute and funny, I also started laughing with him. We laughed and played for a long time. It made my day. We adults always forget to laugh, we are always thinking and running something behind our minds - like how to finish my project, how to dress up for party, what to cook for dinner, how to make money etc. All our days wind up with polite smiles to others and less laughs. Laugh more whenever you get an opportunity, if you don't get  an opportunity, create one. A day passed in your life can never be gained, hence make sure there is something to laugh and enjoy in your everyday.

Later I spoke to my aunt. She is a retired teacher, and still don't miss a chance for teaching (kidding). She is a person with lot of knowledge and wisdom. You always leave with lot of wise advice and good feeling after a conversation with her. Today when I spoke to her she told me about how we should see our motherhood and career and how we should handle our lives. She told me, kids learn to adjust and understand more in life when their Moms are working. They learn to respect other individuals and their decisions. They will grow up knowing that life is sharing of joys, sorrows and off course responsibilities. They will learn to take responsibilities in life. When you have financial difficulties you end up bringing lot of negative thoughts into your life. Worry always bring lot of other problems, and it can even affect good relations. Another reason is when you sacrifice too much for your child, you will later tend to put that sacrifices in the form of emotional blackmail on your kids. So make sure you think about yourself too.Its important for a great family life. Women is the pillar of a family, only  if that women is strong, confident and happy about herself she can make her family happy. Hence make sure you give importance to yourself and your dreams too. This was the first time my aunt spoke to me so openly, most of the times it used to be general advises. Thanks to her, I felt really good and positive after talking to her.

After lunch, I thought of taking my son to a new neighbor. I met her in a birthday party and came to know that she stays very near to us. I thought she is a naive and innocent person. She has two kids, hence I took my son there to play with them. This was the first time I went to her house. The person I saw there surprised me. She was sitting and coding in PHP, creating a new application from the scratch for a school. I was so dumbfounded, but at the same time I felt shame on myself for judging her too fast on the day of party. You have to keep your mind open to understand others, if you keep it closed and narrow you will end up with lot of false assumptions about others. She is smart, simple and a nice person, who even offered to teach me. I left her house thinking how wrong and immature I was. It taught me a great lesson in life. Never be too proud of yourself and never think others are ignorant or unimpressive. 

There is a lot to learn in your life once you keep your mind open. Hence keep your eyes and mind open for good.

"Life is queer with its twist and its turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When they might have won, had stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow."

-Anonymous (from http://www.behappyzone.com/poems.html )

First of March 2016 - Learn to Ignore the bad and Count your blessings..

First of March 2016, Spring is nearing, excitement and happiness is building. It looks like weather today reflected my mood- a bright, peaceful and happy day. If you are wondering what I learned from today, here it is.

"Understand YOU through others".That would be the best way to do self check. When you are in conversation with a person, you suddenly realize that the other person is saying/doing something that You usually say/do. And at times you get irritated at their behavior or other times you feel good. I have had similar experiences many times in my life. Even today it happened. It makes me think how it feels when I do the same to others. And it has always helped me improve myself. For instance I used to be very defensive, whether I am doing right or wrong I used to defend myself a lot. In my life I met someone who is exactly like that and I felt their behavior infuriating. After that, I learned to accept when I am wrong. Being defensive is a childish and immature behavior which can only bring shame to yourself.

"Count your Blessings - through others".Count your blessings, count your blessings, count your blessings. This is something you can see in every self help book, blog and article. Why not count your blessings through others. There are times in life when you don't realize what your loved ones are doing for you. This happens when you are too much worried about yourself and becomes self-centered. Other people you know or meet can help you with this. For instance when you see a friend of yours having tough time with her husband, you realize how understanding and loving your husband is. When you see someone's mother being less understanding to their kids, you realize how friendly and understanding your Mom has been. Then you actually think how blessed you are to have such great, loving people in your life. This actually helps you to count your blessings.

"Ignore things that aren't important". In the 24 hours of your day, there can be 100 things happening. And you can't expect everything to be good. It can be good or bad. Don't get too excited or disappointed at anything. Ignore the bad and cherish the good. This can help you a lot. A colleagues taunt, an angry customer, a failed attempt, an embarrassing incident - it can be anything, but learn to throw it in the dustbin. Its a tough thing to do, but once you master it by practice, it can bring a lot of serenity to your life.

The only way you grow in this life is by learning and improving yourself. Since humans are social animals, the best way to do that is through the people in your life. You start feeling good about yourself when you are improved and mature. And when you feel good about yourself, everyone else will. Have a good day!